Saturday, October 10, 2009

Lost

I know this is not the conventional way to do this and, yes, I realize it’s a private matter, but by already talking about the baby here, I’ve turned it into a public one. I feel compelled to fill you in on recent events plus I’m using this forum to do our dirty work. It will give us some breathing room and keep us from having to retell the same thing. This past week, we lost the baby. I won’t go into more details about what happened. I will say this. Yes, we will try again. We are still planning to name our first-born Blu and it was a girl.

I’ve lost a lot of friends over the years and every time it’s a little easier, but this was very different. It’s like losing a part of my wife and part of me. People keep saying, “Everything happens for a reason.” That might be true, but it hurts now. I want to be strong for my wife, but putting up a front is difficult. I do understand things will get better, so you can spare me the pep talks.

Every time someone asks me about the baby, I almost break down. It’s harder for my wife. So if you want to comment here feel free. We may or may not read it.

-Ethan

4 comments:

voldemort said...

Dude my heart goes out to you and Un. Sorry about the loss, you probably heard this before but hang in there. Life's a weird and sometimes tragic thing, sometimes the sad things in life make ones art better. And as bugged out as this sounds and in no way am I saying this is a good thing, if it helps you with the grieving process then do it. Use the sadness for what it is, create out of tragedy. I hope everything is ok with both you and Un.

My condolences

J

Anonymous said...

I am truly sorry.

Sarah

Betsy said...

Ethan, I know that you and Un are hurting right now and I wish there was something anyone could do to take this pain from you both. Please know you are both in my thoughts. My heart goes out to you and you are both loved.

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry. I'm not going to pretend like I know what you are going through. I love you both. Please let me know if you need anything.

Laura